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This site was created for the population of Exaholics. Losing a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, fiancé, partner, or any significant person in life, for whom you have (or have had) feelings, can be an extremely painful experience. Getting over the loss can be one of the most traumatic and difficult challenges you’ll face. To others this might sound overly dramatic. To such judgmental people, serious problems include only devastating matters as a cancer diagnosis, getting laid off at work, and other real problems and serious life challenges. But what you go through is certainly very real and emotionally devastating. And you are the one living with these emotions on a daily basis.

Not everyone suffers in the same way. Some spend the majority of time thinking about the other person with a high degree of intensity. For this person, functioning is severely diminished and they’re may be symptoms such as weight loss, depression, loss of sleep, sleeping too much, inability to get out of bed, inability to concentrate, excessive sadness, no interest in dating, and inability to even think of anyone else romantically.

Some are at a functioning level, but still find themselves missing something. They think about the other person often and find it hard to completely move on or become interested in new people. They are slow to rediscover their own identity and explore their own interests. They may have a hard time being alone.

Still for others, the hard part is taking charge of their own lives and just turning the page. They may have even made some peace with being without the other person, but are lacking the motivation or the ability to create their own destiny. For you, it might be tough to hit the reset button and develop a new routine in life.

Whichever category you fit into, whether listed here or not, the reality is there is a lot to get through, and to get over. The baggage, misery, obsessive thoughts, fear, self loathing, regret, sadness, anger, boredom, purposelessness, and all that is felt must not be left for you alone to solve.

The reality is we all need…..

And once you’ve been able to determine for yourself whether or not you could be an Exaholic, the process of recovery may truly begin. There may come a day when you have learned so much about yourself, that you finally realize that your self worth and happiness belong strictly to YOU.

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  • Just want to check in and say Happy Thanksgiving to you all. It really helps to read your posts today. I am making a special Thanksgiving dinner for myself tonight. I was not able to make it home this year and this is the first holiday without my ex.

    I have heard nothing from her today. That is okay. I centered in myself this morning, not her. I…[Read more]

  • @jolie, if you like poetry I’ve put all of the poetry I’ve written since the breakup on the site here. I bumped them for another member a few days ago to make them easier to find…I expect by now the’ve beem bumped way down and are on pages 3 4 or 5 of the Main Daily Check In board, if you are so inclined to read them. Or I could find and bump…[Read more]

  • Jtdrake replied to the topic famous break ups in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In 12 minutes ago

    I’m glad that you are intensifying that he wasn’t that great @lucycharlotte. At one point I was not much better than him by flirting with other women but everything I did was reactive to her, it was all done with reason and when I decided to just stop she got that way. It eventually became a vicious cycle. The reason why I am saying this is…[Read more]

  • @jolie, Did you find the poem?? It’s on the homepage, but if you didn’t find it, someone earlier found the original post that I made on the board with the poem, so it’s on the first page of this forum, entitled “Why Did I Look?”

    I haven’t eaten much in the past 3 months, I’ve lost 28 pounds as of today. I ate a tiny portion of the breakfast,…[Read more]

  • Kimbel replied to the topic Good things in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In 29 minutes ago

    @Wound, you scared me for a second, because until you started talking about the Netherlands, ou sounded exactly like my EX, from the wardrobe to the guitar to the disdain for modern technology. He still has all of his records from the 70′s, and plays then on his record player. I used to buy him any ones I could scoop up that were in fantastic…[Read more]