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This site was created for the population of Exaholics. Losing a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, fiancé, partner, or any significant person in life, for whom you have (or have had) feelings, can be an extremely painful experience. Getting over the loss can be one of the most traumatic and difficult challenges you’ll face. To others this might sound overly dramatic. To such judgmental people, serious problems include only devastating matters as a cancer diagnosis, getting laid off at work, and other real problems and serious life challenges. But what you go through is certainly very real and emotionally devastating. And you are the one living with these emotions on a daily basis.

Not everyone suffers in the same way. Some spend the majority of time thinking about the other person with a high degree of intensity. For this person, functioning is severely diminished and they’re may be symptoms such as weight loss, depression, loss of sleep, sleeping too much, inability to get out of bed, inability to concentrate, excessive sadness, no interest in dating, and inability to even think of anyone else romantically.

Some are at a functioning level, but still find themselves missing something. They think about the other person often and find it hard to completely move on or become interested in new people. They are slow to rediscover their own identity and explore their own interests. They may have a hard time being alone.

Still for others, the hard part is taking charge of their own lives and just turning the page. They may have even made some peace with being without the other person, but are lacking the motivation or the ability to create their own destiny. For you, it might be tough to hit the reset button and develop a new routine in life.

Whichever category you fit into, whether listed here or not, the reality is there is a lot to get through, and to get over. The baggage, misery, obsessive thoughts, fear, self loathing, regret, sadness, anger, boredom, purposelessness, and all that is felt must not be left for you alone to solve.

The reality is we all need…..

And once you’ve been able to admit to yourself and to your closest friends in this program that you are indeed an Exaholic, the process of recovery can truly begin. There will come a day when you have learned so much about yourself, that you finally realize that your self worth and happiness belong strictly to YOU.

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  • I’m sorry to say but you can’t “fix” anyone else.. You can only learn and move on.
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  • I’m sorry..
    I totally understand what you are saying.
    I was the perfect girlfriend.. No drama, kind, sweet, understanding, fun, etc.
    He didn’t communicate how he was feeling overwhelmed and that even though he wanted a serious relationship at the start, something changed in him and he pulled away.
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