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YOU’RE NOT ALONE… BREAK-UPS HURT!!

By Anne K, Recovering Exaholic

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Are you an Exaholic? If you’re asking yourself that question, then chances are you’ve come to the right place. Are you having a difficult time moving on? Have thoughts of your ex been an obstacle to your growth? There are varying degrees of exaholism. For some of us, pain is the predominant feeling at the moment. We’re not able to concentrate too well, and we may be depressed. Some of us just don’t know where to begin. We’ve spent a great deal of time and energy on our ex, and find it hard to re-establish control over our own lives. We feel alone. Some of us are single, some are divorcees, and some may be divorcees with children. If only there was a pill we could take that would solve all of our problems right away.

Well, until that pill is available, it’s going to take hard work. It won’t be easy. And for many of us it will hurt. Emotional pain can be far more difficult to heal than physical pain.

This site takes a different approach than some of the superficial websites that may even seem to diminish or make light of  what we’re going through. Most of us have had enough of being told that we’ll get over it and that everything will be ok. For us, it’s just not ok right now…

…which is why exaholics.com is here… to generate healing for and by exaholics themselves. While there is an experts section, so much of this site is also non-professional. That means we’re relying on ourselves. We understand each other and can relate like no one else.

You're Not Alone... Break-ups Hurt!!
"Are you an Exaholic?"

If you’re asking yourself that question, then chances are you’ve come to the right place. Are you having a difficult time moving on?

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  • Yellowrose replied to the topic The other side in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In 24 seconds ago

    @Kiva
    @luckysouth hit the nail on the head with the comment that the one doing to breaking up no longer has anything invested (or anything to lose).
    I could almost see the relief in my exs eyes after he broke up with me. He said he wanted to keep seeing me, just more casually (we had been so into each other when we were dating that we knew more…[Read more]

  • Yellowrose replied to the topic The other side in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In 1 minute ago

    @Kiva
    @luckysouth hit the nail on the head with the comment that the one doing to breaking up no longer has anything invested (or anything to lose).
    I could almost see the relief in my exs eyes after he broke up with me. He said he wanted to keep seeing me, just more casually (we had been so into each other when we were dating that we knew more…[Read more]

  • awoken replied to the topic Help in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In 3 minutes ago

    I can’t go a day with out talking to her…so much lingers…details about kids…logistics…babysitting…..and our divorce. I decided last night that I have a problem. It’s over. She doesn’t love me. She just can seduce me…and is probably somewhat scared of divorce like me. And I can’t do this divorce with her. She has me wrapped around her…[Read more]

  • Kiva replied to the topic The other side in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In 11 minutes ago

    @yolo Uh, why? Why do I have to be the bigger person? Why wasn’t he the bigger person? What about karma for him? Rhetorical questions, probably – but I was raised with a very strong sense of justice and fairness and how people should own their behaviour – so it’s been very hard for me to just rise above it. I want to right the wrongs, and I…[Read more]

  • luckysouth replied to the topic The other side in the forum MAIN Daily Check-In 14 minutes ago

    @kiva @yolo

    I know it’s so painful to hear, but he IS doing just fine. Remember – it was his decision and he wants to get out of there with the least emotional ties and baggage as possible. He CAN’T be civil and nice and normal. He doesn’t want to see you or the kids or explain or say good-bye. He just wants to get out of there with his self…[Read more]