By Anne K, Recovering Exaholic

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Are you an Exaholic? If you’re asking yourself that question, then chances are you’ve come to the right place. Are you having a difficult time moving on? Have thoughts of your ex been an obstacle to your growth? There are varying degrees of exaholism. For some of us, pain is the predominant feeling at the moment. We’re not able to concentrate too well, and we may be depressed. Some of us just don’t know where to begin. We’ve spent a great deal of time and energy on our ex, and find it hard to re-establish control over our own lives. We feel alone. Some of us are single, some are divorcees, and some may be divorcees with children. If only there was a pill we could take that would solve all of our problems right away.

Well, until that pill is available, it’s going to take hard work. It won’t be easy. And for many of us it will hurt. Emotional pain can be far more difficult to heal than physical pain.

This site takes a different approach than some of the superficial websites that may even seem to diminish or make light of  what we’re going through. Most of us have had enough of being told that we’ll get over it and that everything will be ok. For us, it’s just not ok right now…

…which is why is here… to generate healing for and by exaholics themselves. While there is an experts section, so much of this site is also non-professional. That means we’re relying on ourselves. We understand each other and can relate like no one else.

You're Not Alone... Break-ups Hurt!!
"Are you an Exaholic?"

If you’re asking yourself that question, then chances are you’ve come to the right place. Are you having a difficult time moving on?

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  • hey honey i feel the same – its been two months for me too! and i can’t stop eating rubbish and am getting fatter!!! i think i read all of the baggage reclaim site today which has helped me a lot. its just the thoughts that drive one crazy isn’t it?! man mine won’t shut up.. over analysing over analysing its exhausting i also feel quite isolated…[Read more]

  • lisue posted an update 33 minutes ago

    It’s been 5 days since I e-mailed him. He has emailed me and I have looked at them but not responded. Every time I think I’m going to respond I look back at the crappy things he’s said to me. I know that he’s dating others but wants me around just until someone sticks. Why the heck do I miss him. Someone asked me today if I was sparkling…[Read more]

  • @mia, very well said… I, too got the “you’re too nice” remark. It was when we were on a break and he couldn’t make up his mind between me and her. For me it comes down to 2 things:

    1) He’s projecting the qualities he lacks on to you. Basically, he says you’re too nice, meaning I’m an *ssh*le (which my ex was saying too at the time). Maybe it’s…[Read more]

  • Any men on here with an ex they are struggling to get over. It does seem to be mostly women so be good to hear from some guys…

  • Mystic – it is normal what you are feeling – it is so hard to resist our thoughts – try to remember if you give in it just isn’t going to help you – that’s what I always kept telling myself – next month it will be 2 years for me – and I’ve just started feeling better the last few months – it is hell to go thru I know. The problem is that we have…[Read more]